My boyfriend's ex is crazy
Well I have kind of a situation going on. I am 18 years old and I am currently in a relationship with a 27 year old. We met in July of last year. We starting messing around until November of that same year. He had just broken up with his ex girlfriend a month before I met him (June). I'm pretty sure I was his rebound girl or something like that but I didn't mind cause I also had also just broken up with my now ex boyfriend. We kept going out on dates and messing around until one day (late January) he broke down crying and told me that his ex had called him and told her she was eight months pregnant. We were both very drunk that night and decided to talk about it the next day. The next day we talked about it and he told me that he would understand if I did not want to see him anymore and that if I did want to keep seeing him and that I could back down anytime I wanted. I decided to not stop seeing him since I was not his girlfriend and we did not have any kind of serious relationship. I know any other girl would've freaked out and asked to not see him anymore. Nothing really changed between us. In fact we started going out more frequently. She moved in with him and his roommates for the rest of her pregnancy. I didn't mind since he said she wanted him to be part of her pregnancy and I didn't want to deny him of that experience.She stayed for a month after the baby was born and then left to live with her mother. I was there for him for his baby's birth and was there with him when he once again broke down about him not seeing his daughter anymore.
P.s. The reason she moved in with him and his roommates was because she wanted to try to go back with him and the reason she left was because he told her that he wouldn't go back with her because he was seeing someone (me). When he told her this she told him that she wanted full custody of the baby.
Mid April he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes. He told me that I had been for him when he needed it the most and that he wanted something a little bit more serious with me.
About three weeks ago he told me that he received court papers for the babies custody.
About two weeks ago he texted me and told me that he had sent her a message that was meant for me. He also told me that she freaked out and said that she was going to his home with the baby. The next day she showed up to his home with all her things and just moved in once again. I understand that he was obviously not going to tell her to leave because she is the mother of his baby and had also brought the baby with her.
She told him that she was only staying with him for only a few days and I had no problem with that. But now it's been two weeks and she is still living with him! And I'm so frustrated! I haven't really spent more than two hours with him since he got here.
She also has kicked him out a few times of his own home. For that reason he is temporarily moving in with his mother. She has been threatening him that he will never see the baby anymore if he keeps seeing me. If he's home past one she goes crazy. His roommates are stressed. And idk what to do. He is also very stressed and I'm super stressed too.
Every time he used to tell me about how she was acting I would just tell him everything was going to be okay but now I just don't know what to say anymore.
Now every time I see him I don't feel like it's the same. I feel like he is physically with me but not mentally because of the stress she's putting him through. Im feeling pretty shitty and don't know what todo...
Should I leave him and live my life like any other 18 year old should?
Should I just give him some time and space and talk about us after he resolves his issues with his baby mama?
Should I stick by his side and see what happens with our relationship? And hope that me sticking with him will make or relationship stronger?
Or am I making a storm in a cup of water?
Any opinions? Please!
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