How do I move past this?

Question

So A few days ago I found out my husband has been having extreme sexual issues. He set up a Plenty of fish dating profile and an email specifically for talking to other women. My friend found out and she was the one that told me. I knew it was recent(I took his profile picture) and I guessed his password(it was one I made for him when his email was last hacked).  When I started reading the messages my stomach felt like it hit the floor. He has done this before but this time he was trying to get women to come to his work and/or meet up with them. There were addresses he gave and he was trying to figure out times.. it makes me feel sick talking about it. He also started up his porn addictions issues really bad again. My mother stepped in and said that regardless of what happens she is going to help him get counseling. He cried and cried and said he doesn't want to be done. He asked me to put parental controls on his phone and we have a counseling session set up for today...
This is probably the 4th time in almost 7 years that I know of. Am I doing the right thing?

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Only you know if you're doing the right thing. Sounds like he needs therapy for the rest of his life cuz if you've caught him four times in 7 years, he's been doing it a heck of a lot more than that. Ask yourself what you want to do. Is it worth being with a man that's going to constantly cheat?  Is his constant cheating leading to you feeling bad about yourself or inadequate?  Personally I'd be done with him as far as ever trusting him enough to be married him or have any kind of intimate relationship, no matter how much he cried. I'd pray for him to overcome his problems and wish him luck and I'd move on. It's nice that your mother wants to help him but what about you?  Him doing this has such a negative impact on you....that's what I'd be concerned about if my daughter's husband was treating her this way. He's a grown man; let him get his own help.

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Sorry to be blunt but I would have left a long time ago.. I know it's hard I'm sure you love eachother but any man that can do that to there gf/Fiance/wife needs to be left in the dust unless your ok with being cheated on your entire life... catching him 1 time is more then enough of a reason to end things.. he keeps doing it again because your not leaving also and he knows he an get away with it! He has had no real consequences for his actions so wtf does he really care! He knows he can cry and you won't leave him !! Maybe hitting rock bottom which is being without you will be the key to finally realizing he fucked up and will really want to change! If you don't change nothing is going to change! Goodluck

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Girl, it's like you're writing about my life. I've been through this/still going through it. He hid his sexual/porn addiction until a few years after we were married. He's cheated on me with 9 different women, that's I know of! I'm in the process of leaving him because I've had enough. But only you can know what right for you, like others have said. When you think about it, ONLY think about what's right for YOU. He's going to feel hella guilty and make you feel bad for him, but don't let it change how you feel, what you want. If you ever want to talk with someone who's been there, I'm here!

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If you feel like your marriage is worth fighting for yes if you feel like you're fighting a never ending battle then you have to take whatever steps necessary to get yourself to best place possible. Most times guys are content with how they are so they repeat the same actions.

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