what changed after a miscarriage for you?

Question

I no for a lot of people having a miscarriage is hard, and it's not really spoken about. For me all my miscarriages were hidden under the carpet by my family. But what I'd like to no is what changed after losing a baby? Physically and mentally.

Abit of info about me is I constantly have to wear pads now because I don't feel like I have full control of my bladder, is it just me? Or do you have to deal with this?

my first miscarriage was may 2016 and then December 2016, it was heart breaking for me and I still am not dealing with what happened, I get jealous of seeing people post scan photos and seeing mums and baby's when I'm out. Does this feeling ever leave? I never got to have a scan photo.

Please tell me what it's like for you? We can all support each other x

Answer

I think the hardest part of my miscarriage was that everyone around me was so supportive and excited, which was so wonderful until I lost the baby. Then it felt like I had to be strong emotionally for everyone around me. Miscarriage is such a  taboo topic that people were so uncomfortable around me. They treated me like I was sick. They tiptoed around me and I never fully felt like I got to grieve, even now after years. If i showed any emotion or tried to talk about it people had no idea how to handle me anymore. It took me 3 years to find friends who don't cringe when I talk about "when I was pregnant".

Physically, my doctor was older and he insisted I try to process the miscarriage naturally. He said "your body will know what to do". After two weeks of heavy bleeding and heavy cramping he finally agreed to a d&C which was traumatic in its own way.

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You're not alone I feel that way too my first pregnancy came healthy than after that i got pregnant 2 times and they ended in miscarriage first one at 15 weeks that one really hit me didn't taught that was gonna happen as my first was healthy my second one baby stop growing at 8 weeks my husband has a friend that his girlfriend is expecting we where like 3 weeks apart we kept our pregnancy a secret so when they announced they where expecting twins my husband face was over happy for him as for me whent to my room and cry so they berely found out they having 2 boys i got depressed like why me feel jealous of women's being pregnant and i can't get a healthy pregnancy again

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I had a miscarriage in March. My hcg was rising very slow and we thought I could have falopian tube pregnancy. Luckily it wasn't and I lost it at 6 weeks. Had to go through D&C. What an experience! When I see pregnant women I always ask why not me? Wish all of you courage and best of luck. Don't give up

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what changed after a miscarriage for you?

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