is he bad for me? (EXPLAINED)

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FURTHER EXPLANATION OF THE POLL IS HE BAD FOR ME? (READ DESCRIPTION) Many of you wanted to know how it really went, but if you haven't read the original post go ahead and find it on my profile❤️ 
Also, thank all of you who has answered the original one, SO much. It was very eye opening, and helped me to take the discision of watching his steps closely, and keeping him In the friendzone. I will also try and keep myself under more strict control, and take things slow. I will also discuss what happened with him. 
DISCLAIMER: 
I AM AWARE THAT MY CHOICES ARE WRONG AT SUCH A YOUNG AGE, THIS IS FOR THE MATTER OF YOU TO UNDERSTAND THE FULL SITUATION.
So here's how it went: I was drunk I hadn't eaten for about three days at the time, and I didn't know at the time, that that makes you very drunk much quicker. He was drunk. I had mindlessly blubbered about a lot of very personal things: my Ed, depression, self harm etc. and he listened and hugged me. By then my other drunk friend joked around, saying something like:" Aw you guys, you're so sweet, just kiss already". He then did. And i was okay with that. Next he just sat there and hugged me. He began to caress the scars i had on my side, and then he squeezed my but and asked if we should take it somewhere else. I told him that I didn't feel like it "not today, not yet" i said . He then stopped. And then after a while he began to finger me, while I nearly had fallen asleep in his arms. My bff (the girl) began to tell him that it was disgusting, and that he should stop, while the other guy also protested and had to go away because he couldnt watch. I didn't care. I just wanted him to do whatever he wanted to. Then me and my bff had to go home so she helped me out.

Again, thank you for all of the great advice, I will be much more careful in the future and enjoy my time as a child.
Love

-Sarah

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That really sounds like rape. Which makes me feel even more that you need to seek adults help, not an "older" sibling.

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intoxicated AND almost unconscious, you didnt even say that you would let him( not that it would matter since you were under the influence) that is actually 100% rape :(

I'm sorry that you have depression. I have been in your shoes I still struggle with depression.

I will tell you that turning to older people who are irresponsible or pressuring you to do irresponsible things (just by doing it themselves, not by forcing you to) will not heal you. No matter how hard you try to fill that emptiness inside you with alcohol, or popularity or things or money or drugs or sex... it will not heal you, that hole will not be filled.

god has been the only one to ever make me truly happy. And when I distance myself from him i find myself in depression, trying to satisfy myself with things i buy for myself, or with attention from other people but it never works, I'm always unhappy afterwards- even more unhappy than before i tried to fill that hole with something besides him.

I'm not forcing the Bible down your throat or forcing you to believe what i say or forcing you to be a part of my family with Christ. And people can say what they want to about me for sharing my love for the Lord with you.

My God loves me and created me, and when i prayed for him to forgive my sins, he forgave them all past present and future and I permanently have a seat with him in my true home.

I'll be praying for happiness in your life and for love and acceptance and satisfaction for you.

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Wow that sounds seriously rapey I wouldn't keep in contact with him tbh

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When I read your original post I thought it's didn't sound great but I've been there, got drunk and done stupid things but this explanation post sounds way worse.

What he did was wrong, you said you weren't ready and he did what he wanted anyway. He sounds like bad news and you shouldn't put yourself in that position with him again because it could end way worse.

You shared some personal feelings with him and he took advantage of the situation.

There are nice guys out there so don't let this dick ruin it for you x

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Hey Sarah I'm so so sorry to hear this happened to you and I'm really upset to hear about ur self harm and depression I've been through very similar experiences pls pls message I think I can help u out a lot-xx Chloe

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I just want to say this wasn't your fault. Being interested in these things at that age is part of discovering the world around us. When you said no, which was a good decision on your part, he had a choice to either respect your wishes or not. He didn't. You do NOT want to be around people like that.  Especially at 14, the part of the brain responsible for impulse control and executive decision making hasn't yet matured for you while the pleasure center has (i.e. it makes something like alcohol 10x more addictive and harmful for you than for an older person).  It also makes it physically more difficult for you to make choices  that go against your impulses or what feels good at that moment, and a target by manipulative people like this who do know what they're doing. Please consult with your parents or an adult, and take care.

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I commented on your other post, and would just like to say, this sounds like sexual assault/rape.

I'm so sorry. Please don't hang around these people anymore. And please be careful ❤️

I also suffer from depression and used to suffer from self harm at that age. If you need someone, I'm here ❤️ I hope that you stay away from these people and find better friends. You deserve so much more!

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You remind me of myself a little bit, self harm etc, I did all of this at your age hence why I was so abrupt on your other post because these things break my heart and I'd never want anyone else to be where I was at when I was younger.

It gets better, trust me it really does. However some things never go away, you learn to live and let live. Please be careful and look after yourself because you only get one chance at life. Dilemmas get thrown at you and all sorts but things do work out.

I hope you find your happiness in life, and please stay strong ❤️

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From the original post

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That sounds like rape...

is he bad for me? (EXPLAINED)

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