My fiances family is trying to interfere in my relationship with my fiance.

She we were forst boyfriend and girlfriend his family didn't see me has girlfriend. They tried to dictate terms of my relationship with my boyfriend. They treated me as the same as his ex girlfriends, they were lazy users. I'm the opposite, I own and run my own business as a professional massage therapist and I'm studying physiotherapy. I was raised to be independant. I learnt to cook and clean at age 10.i don't treat my fiance like shit like his ex's did. I love and respect my fiance. My fiances dad died from cancer 5 years ago and his mum always relied on him to do all the jobs. When I went to see my fiance when we were boyfriend and girlfriend our time spent together was always about his mother with little time spent together as boyfriend and girlfriend.his aunty runs the family not his mum. His aunty has no life her selfish husband thinks more about himself than his wife who's my fiances aunty. His aunty always interfered in my relationship with my boyfriend and I until a month ago I said to them to stop interfering. I said to my fiance and to his mum and aunty that I'm really fed up with the interference.His mum and aunty saw my side to things and agreed to finally stop interfering.

Before I did this I saw their side to this situation and I had a chat to my fiance who agreed.

I love his mum to bits but his aunty is a real pain. I said to my fiance that on occasion I'll have dinner with his whole family but not often because it would just encourage alot of interfering again. I'm not stopping my fiance seeing his mum but my fiance and I when together need time together just the 2 of us aswell. He agreed.

Before I got engaged to my fiance I said I was going to move to a suburb which was the same one as his family but I changed my mind after the interference started. A few wks ago I decided to look at houses a few suburbs away so when My fiance and I live together and get married we can actually live a long married happy life not having to have a shirt unhappy marriage because of interferring family of his. After having this discussion for a few hrs my fiance agreed.

When I first said my feelings about my fiances family interfering I was treated as a cold hearted bitch because I stood up to them with my strong beliefs that their interfering was wrong. My fiance was really concerned and he spoke to his mother but it took time to do it. My parents grew up to be independant and taught me to be independant too. My parents respect my fiance when he was my boyfriend first. My parents don't interfere and they know I'll still be their daughter even when I live away from them and also be married. At the moment I live with my folks to save for a deposit for a house and to also help them out alot too.

My fiance has a flat but doesn't live far from his family.

Recently I realised my fiances mum has been taking a strong nerve killer that screwing with her mind and she's saying crazy stuff to my fiance that makes him upset. I can't say much because then I look like an interfering bitch. I'm studying pain killers because of my physiotherapy training. I have to know all about pain killers as a part of my physiotherapy training. When I studied the med my fiance mum is on I said to my fiance about my concerns and I showed him what it said about it. He tried telling his mum about his concerns she didn't listen.

I have seen the messages from my fiance to his mum, he showed me but it really concerned me because again she's trying to get him to be on her side. My fiance feels his mum is dragging him down with her troubles. He sees her on occassion but not alot as usual because it will encourage her to interfere again. Please What can I do about my fiances mum?