Alright, so, my mom is sort of a screwed up person. She has Manic Depressive Bipolar Disorder, plus early onset dimmensia. She's never been a very warm and fuzzy mom. Sometimes she acts how she's supposed to, but it's obviously not sincere, just an act.

When I was a teenager, she tried to convince me not to have kids because I have a mild familial tremor amd she thinks that shouldn't be passed on.

Well, when I told her I was going to marry my now-husband, she was upset because he has a very rare genetic disorder. Never mind that it's mild and he's wonderful to me, he's not genetically perfect so how dare I love him!

She only accepted it because as far as we knew, only women could pass on this disorder. That's what the doctors thought, anyway.

Surprisingly, my son was born with it as well. We are shocked, but it's not the end of the world. Just two fingers are fused on each hand, a simple surgery once he's old enough and they'll look totally normal, and he doesn't have anything else wrong. He's beautiful and very healthy.

Well, my mom freaked out. She came to the hospital for his birth and left right away after he was born, barely even held him. Didn't do the normal grandma ooing and awwing. The next morning, she called me and started yelling at me. I couldn't calm her. She said "Nobody in my family has ever had anything wrong with them and I'm not okay with it!" And she would not stop attacking. She then called my brothers and who knows who else and blew it way out of proportion- yeah, I didn't even get to tell my family myself.

Now she has said that we shouldn't have any more kids and the only polite things she says are strained and fake.

I don't know how to deal with this. I need support, but my mom won't cut it, and my grandma (who basically raised me) just died so this is particularly hurtful.

I'm allowed to still want more kids, right??