my baby daddy & i have been dating for the past 2 months. strong feelings developed even though i (was) planning on moving to hawaii, so he ended it before we got too attached (too late). the next day i found out i'm pregnant. fast forward 3 days, 2 tests & 1 dshs visit later & i gently but firmly told him i'm pregnant, it's yours & im keeping it. i can do this alone, i don't need you- but our baby would be lucky to have you cause you'd make a great dad. he flipped. like beyond flipped. said he was 1000% sure i was bullshitting several times but then would pop back into reality out of denial & insist that not getting an abortion is selfish & unfair because i promised him i would. (i said i didn't want kids. but i don't agree with abortion out of convienience. he accused me of making it up several ..that conversation never came up, although we had a very open & honest relationship - no expectations so i understand his shock). however, just days ago he said he cared about me too much & had to end things. but then tonight, hung up & deleted (not blocked) allllll his social media & blocked my number after i immediately sent him a photo (@ his request!!) of the (second) test in a biohazard bag from the doctor with my initials & date + birthday. i never met any of his friends & he's in the process of selling his condo & moving in with some friends to save money as he is quitting teaching & going back to school for his 2nd degree. so it's possible he could legit disappear. he said he wished he'd never known (uh duh that'd be easy for you but how long would that last since you been still stalking my instagram?) he's not a deadbeat or a jerk. but he's acting like one. i know that he will eventually get over the denial phase, but at the end of the day- he doesn't actually want this kid, or any ever (shoulda paid for the plan B when i suggested it then). how do i allow him parental access while still making it clear he's going to have to earn my trust? i'm not demanding & i don't let enough get to me so i'm often seen as a pushover. but those days ended 4 weeks ago & mama bear is ready to roll, i just don't want to scare him again. i made it clear that this is not about us, babies never solve anything & he can walk away- i just owed it to our kid to let their dad know they exists. any advice in this arena would be much appreciated. sorry if this is all scatterbrained. i'm already tired & nauseous.