So my fiancé and I been together almost 8 years engaged for about 4 years. We haven't been in a rush to get married, we been getting ourselves established, trying to get a place, career changes etc. well, earlier this evening, we were talkin, i work at night and he works during the day. We wants to get married, very soon. No big wedding, and I'm okay with that. He wants to elope, sometime near my birthday (august). His oldest sister had a huge wedding 2 years ago, and we all paid for it, and he and I just decided we don't want the stress of planning a wedding, and it's for us, not for everyone else to dictate what goes on.