How do you feel when your boyfriend goes out to drink?

Question

When your boyfriend goes out with his friends, guys night, whatever? Can anyone help me get over this ANXIETY I feel?

My boyfriend and I are both 20 and in college. We've been together for 2 years and we're both in love and loyal, I know he wouldn't cheat.

Today he was playing basketball at the park w/ these guys he barely knows (met them like 3 times there) But they invited him out to get food. Next thing I know he's drinking at the bar. Just a beer & soju he said (soju isn't hard liquor is it?? He claims it's not as strong as vodka.).

Anyways. My reaction when he goes out with his friends (or people he just met, like this!) is always I don't like it. I'm worried. I don't know why I'm worried. I don't think I can relax until he calls me when he gets home, which he said he was going to do. I guess I worry for his safety? I'm afraid he might drink too much? Shit happens when you drink too much...

I'm not sure how to just, be cool, you know? NOTE: It's not terrible anxiety. It's just a constant worry I would love to get rid of. I don't know why I worry. I have a hard time turning it off.

Anyone else here worry like this for their SO?

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Soju can be very hard liquor if it's homemade haha. But if you trust him there shouldn't be a problem. He's 20. He deserves to go out with friends and have fun!!

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I have awful anxiety. And drinking makes me soooo anxious. Like I know people can be resoponsible and drink affectivly. But like... I can't help but worry about my boyfriend if he drinks. 
So I had a conversation with him and really talked shit out. And afterwords he totally understood my anxietys. And I didn't push for anything. Just voiced my concern and feelings and then asked "so how do you think we can work together to help you enjoy yourself, and myself not be anxious"
I'm super lucky as my boyfriend just decided that he doesn't want to drink at all. As he doesn't find alcohol important. 
But maybe you and your guy could find a compromise so he can enjoy some, and help you feel more safe and comfortable!

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Either go out with friends so you aren't waiting by the phone. Or relax and pamper yourself. Take a long bath. Read. Paint your nails and feet. Etc. Go for a run. Worrying about things that you can't control doesn't save him or make anything better. If my guy goes out I tell him have fun and be safe. He either lets me know when he gets home or we talk the next day and he tells me all about his night out. Or texts me while he out. He does it at bachelor parties too. I trust him completely. He tells me everything sadly even bathroom etc. We are best friends.

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I get that way too. I have a bit of separation anxiety when it comes to my boyfriend because he's just been my protector and the one who has always been there for me. Like you said, I'm not worried he's going to cheat on me. I just get worried about if he's okay or not and it doesn't go away until he gets home. The whole time he is gone, I can't think about anything but him and if he's safe. I am the least religious person in the world but I always pray about it lol. It's hard and there's nothing I can suggest except to occupy yourself, unfortunately.

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He doesn't drink but if he did I would ensure that he had a designated driver

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My boyfriend and I feel the same way about each other drinking. My boyfreind dislikes "guy nights" because he doesn't want me to feel left out so if we drink we are always together so we both know we are safe and if his friends have a problem with me coming then he simply won't go.  But honestly you probably won't get over it because you care for his safety I am always worried even if my boyfriend is coming home from just work. I always have to text him be safe on your home when it gets closer to him being off. It's not going to be easy.

How do you feel when your boyfriend goes out to drink?

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