My doctor's make me feel bad for being pregnant again 😢

Hi ladies my name is Nicole I'm 28 and I live in Texas. This is my 4th pregnancy, one living daughter who will be 4 July 28. First pregnancy my son was still born due to incompetent cervix, my daughter was my second pregnancy, and my 3rd was a miscarriage. Well after I delivered my daughter I was diagnosed with cardiomyopathy and hypertension. I was put on a bunch of medications and told not to have another kid until my child is around 4 or 5. Well a yr later my heart looked great and was completely back to normal I still didn't wanna try for a baby. I still had issues with my blood pressure and my spine issues started getting worse. Well let's fast forward to the current problem. Last week I had my surgery for my cerclage at 12wks. While they were getting​ ready to put me to sleep the anesthesiologist comment that I was dumb and didn't anyone tell me not to have kids because I'm very very high risk. I was hurt and very pissed off. Well tomorrow I go see a cardiologist to find out if my heart is still in good condition. Just here to vent and see if anyone else is high risk. Maybe we can form some type of support system share stories and updates