Don't want to Announce Pregnancy?

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I'm wondering if anyone else out there is afraid to announce or just doesn't really want to? After an ectopic, miscarriage and 2 years of infertility I thought I'd be wanting to tell the whole world I'm pregnant, but instead the thought of it makes me anxious. Anybody else feel like this? I don't want the whole world to know and don't really want to be the centre of attention so I'd rather keep it to immediate family for as long as possible, but husband wants to tell people. I feel like something's wrong with me! We're pretty much the last of our friends to have a baby so I'm sure they'll all be happy for us.

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After 8 years of trying, miscarriage & IVF, when we finally conceived naturally by complete surprise I was too scared to announce! We'd been so open about our struggles and I was so anxious expecting everything to go wrong at any moment - my husband couldn't keep it a secret though and I couldn't disappoint him based on my fears because he was just so thrilled we were finally pregnant.  So we announced at just over 12 weeks - I'm now 37+4 and we're having our little girl next week via c section.  My anxiety has not stopped entirely but it's eased a little week by week.

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I'm afraid of miscarrying, so if/when I get pregnant, I won't be announcing until after the first trimester.  Given your obstetrical history, I think it's a perfectly natural thing to be afraid of announcing.  But, also know that just like your friends, you too deserve your "moment in the sun" just as soon as you do feel comfortable with it.  <3

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We took 2.5 years. 4 IUIs, 5 medicated cycles and one early loss to end up here at 23w2d. Our close friends and families know but we haven't "announced" or our or on social media. Every time we did tell someone I got anxious and more nervous. It was like one more person I would have to face and talk about it with if we did have another loss. It was hard. I run into people in town and they just stare at my belly and then I have to tell them "yes, I'm pregnant, it's not just that I can't lay off the Donuts". I also decided that I wouldn't announce on Facebook or social media before we got pregnant as when we were trying it was very hard to see someone's announcement. Obviously I was happy for them but I was sad for myself. And it made me feel crappy about myself like I was a bad, bitter person... it was hard. You never know what someone may be struggling with privately and I made the decision then not to "announce" like that. I'm content with my situation. The further we get the more excited I get and the more comfortable I am. It's a hard road. Congrats! And good luck!

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We told family and close friends pretty early (family right away, close friends around 13 weeks); but didn't officially announce until 19 weeks.  We just enjoyed keeping it to ourselves and didn't want to jinx anything.  We had to do IVF, so family knew right away, and so did most of my coworkers (who are like family and knew about our treatments).  I know a lot of people who waited until well after the 12 week mark!

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Totally agree. I'm almost 19 weeks and haven't told anyone outside of my inner circle. It's so hard to get excited to share your news when in the back of your mind the fear is always there.

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Congratulations.

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Thanks ladies, I'm just going to play it by ear and do what feels right in the moment.

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