So, recently after a year or so, the father of my child texted me. Asking for another chance and said he was wrong for leaving me and said he changed. the crazy part about this whole coiencdence, is that I do feel a sudden change in him, but I'm not as sure yet. So, we were talking and all; talking about how we have felt about each other and that we missed one another. He wants another chance and I questioned him that if I were to give him another chance.. Would he stay faithful and not hide anything from me. He said yes and his answers oddly made me feel certain he did change his ways. Anywho, I've always been the type that if I were to give another chance in a relationship. even if it is none of my business on what they did during our time we've been split ; I always ask if they slept with anyone because the girls in this town are so darn careless about themselves and this town is the highest rate of STDs and AIDs. He admitted to sleeping with one girl and i was shocked he just openly admitted things to my questions. I was a bit upset because I've never went out of my way to sleep with somebody just for fun - yes, I did talk to some guys here and there but I just never clicked with any of them and didn't really want to bring another man into mine and my daughter's life like that. Anywho, he admitted to it and said it was about 4 month's ago that he did, and it was unprotected; I felt my heart sink because I love this dude regardless what he put me through and surprise he was the one to take my virginity and had a beautiful baby girl. So, I asked him if she was even clean from any diseases or if she ended up pregnant. He said he didn't know. But.. He did say that if she were to be pregnant, he would want to be in the child's life and would want to be with me and have another kid with me. I felt uneasy and didn't like that idea (very selfish of me, I know) and he proceed to ask if I wanted to go to a zoo or something this weekend and possibly stay the whole week he has off with him. He jokingly asked if he was gonna get some, and I said no way until he checked if he was clean. "Not even with a condom?" Ugh. Not even if I had a female condom too! I was still upset about how he told me he didn't use protection and he didn't pull out and I'm just sitting here like... "Well.. How the hell is this gonna work? Us being together , a possibility of another child of his on the way with some other girl?" I told him honestly that I didn't like the idea because it would cause tension. He then told me he would try to get custody of the kid if she was and if I would take care of it. Face palm. What if the mother wants the kid? Like omg. Idk how to honestly feel! I was filled with so much anger and sadness; I wanted to cry but nothing came out of me. Nothing. I just felt my heart shatter inside my chest because I wanted to bare more children from the same guy. And hes asking me if I wanted to take care of another woman's child. I'm 19, and I cannot process all this right now. Im currently doing my psychology degree and alk that. And this weighing down on me is like... shock. But such is life right? He said it just happened and it was for fun.. That he didn't want to do it. If he didn't want to do it as he claimed then why did he? Because he chose to do it, chose to mess with somebody that he didn't know and didn't know if she had a nasty disease and so on. Child has no fault in it, but it was just like a dumb question to ask me. I told him that i wouldn't be able to handle that, and the drama. So, I told him that he can go back to her if she contacts him to confirm the child is his because I will not be involved in this mess. After a year and months of not having any contact with his 2 year old or me; he comes to me asking for another chance and all that mainly because it didn't work between them two. Am I wrong for feeling this overwhelmed and not wanting to take him back because this was all too convenient ? All he literally talks about is having sex with me, and no questions about his daughter. Ugh.