update Rant about husband

So me and my husband have lived together for just under a year. I love him, he's my world. He's military and works crazy long hours (12-15hour days.) when he gets home he doesn't feel like doing anything, which is completely understandable! But really annoying when I've been stuck in the house all day and just want to go out. Yesterday was an off day, he didn't have to work. But we did have a doctors appointment, our closest friends also had a doctor appointment so we gave them a lift. While there one of our friends had to be admitted to A&E.; So we dropped them off and drove the 2 hours home. We were on hold until our friendshusband needed to be picked up, my husband left to pick him up at 6 and got home just after 10. This morning he was out the door at 8 to give him a lift back to the hospital, he just came home (it's now 12) to give me a kiss and he's back to the hospital to pick both our friends up. Now don't get me wrong, obviously I'm more than willing to help! But today and yesterday were our only days together this week. All I wanted was to spend the day with him, find out if we're able to move house and possibly get donuts. I'm 30 weeks pregnant and want donuts. He went to base this morning and was supposed to talk to the housing office to ask all my questions, but gets a text from our friends asking to be picked up so he runs to them. But I know as soon as I ask him to do something for me he's all of a sudden too tired and doesn't want to drive the half hour into the city to get dunking donuts. He'd drop everything and go to the moon for his friends, but for me he can be bothered to do anything! I can't get to the housing office myself because I don't drive, and I need my questions answered before I can start preparing to move! But my husband doesn't understand why I want him to do it now and not next month! We live overseas and I don't speak the language or drive. Am I being pathetic or am I rightfully annoyed? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Update: so he gets home last night around 5pm with a big box of donuts, bought down the pillows and blanket from upstairs and cuddled while watching Arrow. He is an amazing man. 😍

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Ni

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Rightfully annoyed girl . I would've sat down with my husband and talked about it till he got the point . Being pregnant and having to depend on someone who gets easily annoyed when you ask for a favor has to be freaking horrible . Especially if it's your husband 😫

Bl

Blevins • Jul 13, 2017
thank God somebody agrees!

Sa

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I think helping out friends over just getting donuts in the end is more important. Yes it sucks you have to wait longer for some time with him but honestly the friend needed help now. My husband helps people all the time and it would literally drive me nuts, but when i compared what i wanted to what he was taking time to help others for, then my current want was just greediness and not appreciating the helpful guy my husband is.

Sa

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Fellow military wife here! Are you able to call the housing office? Normally the people who work on base, even foreign bases, speak English. I totally get the frustration with him helping everyone out except you, and don't even get me started on donut cravings! So sorry dunkin is so far away. I'm about to move to Japan and I was able to call a lot of the offices myself which helped me get the answers I needed.

Bl

Blevins • Jul 13, 2017
I don't even have a commissary to get them at!

Bl

Blevins • Jul 13, 2017
she speaks English, but if my husband is on base (it's a tiny base! hence the two hour drive to the closest military hospital) he can ask... he's on base every day and works panama 12s. I also hate talking to people!

Li

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I can see why you're annoyed but I can also see why he's tired. All that running around back and forth to the doctor...a TWO HOUR DRIVE just to see the doctor and doing it more than once in a day has gotta be tiring. I also think the pregnancy hormones have got a tight grip on you girl. If I could, I'd teleport you some Dunkin Donuts....cuz you sound on the edge about them donuts. As for the housing situation, yeah he's gotta get on that asap. 

Sa

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Well I can see how that's annoying! It's nice that he's helping others out though. Is there a reason you can't drive? I could never wait or depend on my husband to do certain things. He's such a procrastinator! Drives me nuts! Takes me 3 years to get him to do one task.

Sa

Sa • Jul 13, 2017
Bummer! So you really can't suck it up and get a license. Well time to put your foot down! Sometimes us women are known as nags....well they drive us to it!

Bl

Blevins • Jul 13, 2017
I don't speak the language? I don't have the correct documentation to learn. Lots of reasons...