4 Upvotes
Comment
I would say the first step is for u to forgive him because it doesn't seem like u have fully forgiven him that's the only way it going to work he seem like his doing his part to make u feel like he really wants u. So i just would say u have to let go and let it work out u have your guards up still so your not fully letting him show u how sorry he is before me and my husband got married like almost 3 years again. We had a similar situation and he did everything to show me that this is what he really wanted we go church so i prayed about it we had sessions with our pastor and 3 years and 7 months later we are happy and having our 4th child together hope this helps
Husband kissed another girl
My husband and I were rocky for a long time. Well over a year. We got together way too young (15) and had a baby a year later, got married 4 months after that.. right out of highscool he joined the army and left for 6 months, so our entire relationship has been rushed. During the first year, it was on stop fighting , screaming, cheating (never physical)
I treated him like shit, he did the same.
Fast forward 5 years and here we are. The last year has been rough and I used the word divorce a lot. Our second child was a stillborn and I became very suicidal, which is what triggered the rough part because I refused to get help. Anyways, one day we were at a gas station and we weren't fighting, but he kissed a girl on the cheek, got her number, and all that. We began fighting, screaming, I was pregnant (he didn't know) and I had a miscarriage that I blame on the stress.
He texted her a few days later saying he couldn't stop thinking about her, she was beautiful, our marriage is over, all that. So we took some time apart, I contacted her and was very polite, she said she didn't know he was married and she wants nothing to do with it and we both apologized to eachother. After some time apart, we talked. He blocked her number and told me that he just felt so alone and wanted someone to care for him and notice him. He said he was being selfish and he liked that someone was giving him attention.
It's been about a month now, we've been great. He has changed, we start counseling soon, he treats me like a princess, he never goes to that gas station anymore, he lets me see his phone whenever. There was a few times that I broke and screamed at him for what he did and he just listened and didn't fight back. I really want this to work. I just can't help but wonder what to do. I can't stop thinking about it. And I know everyone will say "either move on or leave"
I'm really trying here. I just need some encouragement, some stories from others. There's hope right? I've made it very clear to him that the moment he even steps cross that line, I'm packing everything and leaving him, no exceptions.
414
views • 4
upvotes • 4
comments
COMMENT (4)
well you need to forgive him if you're going to be with him. you've already set the ground rules...if he does that again, you're leaving. that's all YOU can do. the rest is on him. you also need to trust him or this will never work. don't stress over something you cannot control. trust that you know his character
Hey hun I just want to let you know I'm in a similar situation .. I had my daughter at 14 and my fiancé was 16.. There was constant cheating fighting everything also never physical we broke up for a while and found our selves back to each other and have been together for about 3 years we still argue but no more bullshit.. I really feel for you because our second child was stillborn my son! Trust me I know the depression and emotional toll this takes on a relationship and as a mom we go through this loss in a different way than the men do and that's okay.. I have learned that communication is key and that at first I was constantly miserable fighting with my man and hurting and we almost ended things again but than I realized I have to let go of all that anger and focus on each other and our daughter.. it's not easy trust me but me and him have been doing so much better and we just start trying again for #3 and I'm so happy.. we are both hopefully that this time it will work out and our son has brought us closer than ever ... and as far as the cheating goes I've been there with him also and the only way to truly move past is to let it go and try to move forward and realize getting together young plus loosing a child can put a major toll on a relationship but that doesn't mean it can't get better because from experience it can😊 I'm here for you and I hope you guys can be happy together again ❤️
Ji
I also meant to say we've been together for 8 years but 3 years of no cheating and finally settled down together 😊
Let's Glow!
Achieve your health goals from period to parenting.
