Am I wrong?

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My husband enjoys anal sex and wants me to twerk for him all of the time. It is something that I am not comfortable with, but I do it because he likes it just not often. So my question is am I wrong for having reservations? I know that these things are something he enjoys but I feel like he's trying to change me into the porn stars that he watches and that is not me at all. I feel like he knows this but he continues to push and claims that I make him feel inadequate when I don't give in to his requests, and when I do it's simply for pity's sake or so that h me will leave me alone. Don't get me wrong I love my husband and want him to feel satisfied, however there are things I want to that I don't get. Any advice?

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no one is entitled to your body. don't do anything you're not fully into. sex is supposed to be mutually pleasurable

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He shouldn't be pressuring you. If you don't like it, then that is that. He needs to realize that. Him being your husband does not mean he can do whatever he wants to you, and it doesn't mean that you have to put yourself through discomfort to be with him.

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Tell your husband that you'll only continue to allow him to perform anal sex on you IF and ONLY IF you can perform anal sex on HIM (by use of strap-on). Stick to your guns on this one.
Also, for the twerking, tell him that you don't like it and that you don't feel comfortable doing it. If you feel like it, do what you did with the anal sex: you'll only continue to twerk for him if and only if he learns to twerk himself. However, you could change this to ANY sort of dance or whatever that you find appealing. 
If he complains, explain to him that the way he feels is the way that you always feel, and that you're just trying to make the relationship more equal for the both of you. 
Stand your ground.

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Tell him to twerk for you to the point he feels uncomfortable so he can see how it feels

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You guy need to make a yes no and maybe list set boundaries but also communicate your needs and want also some self searching for yourself to see what you're into sex should be something you look forward to

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Unless you're in a sub/dom contracted relationship, then no, you're not obliged to do as he says. Infact, you can swiftly tell him to sit on something.

If you don't like it, don't do it. If he continues to pressure you, find something he doesn't like and constantly pester him to do it. Treat him the way he treats you.

Or a simple; "I'll do this if you do that"

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If rather my husband as me to twerk for him & for him to get off to me rather than getting off to someone else but that just me 🤷🏽‍♀️
I guess just talk to him?

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I feel like he's pulling a guilt trip for you to do what he wants. I don't think that's cool. You can make a man feel inadequate by saying you don't wanna do something that makes you uncomfortable. He's using that as an excuse

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If you don't like it then he needs to respect that

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It seems like he is requiring you to grow in your "sexy" department.. he's trying to give you a chance to spice it up so it does fizzle out and he will be searching in the streets for it.. men love a lady in the streets and a freak in the bed.. so if you don't feel secure doing it, look for pole dancing classes on Groupon and practice with other ladies.. the ladies that participate in these classes are all different shapes and sizes because there's no "perfect" size..

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