A few weeks ago, I took my baby girl to a doctors visit. There it was. The infamous box. I sat petrified. What do I check? I am a mix of things (people have guessed all kinds of things depending on where I am in the world and what language I'm speaking, but I identify as white - I don't have a breakdown of my genes to tell you all of the specifics). My husband (her dad) is Haitian (which is also a mix of things). What is she? I scanned the list multiple times. I hovered my pen over "black". Then moved it to "white". Then down to "other". In that moment I felt so much pressure to make the right decision. But what is right?! How does one know what is right?! After the doctors appointment, I came home. Baby girl was napping. I thought back on that moment and started weeping. In a time in history where race and identity is such a major issue, how do I make sure I'm not making the wrong decision for my love? Y'ALL. I LOVE HER MORE THAN LIFE. I would never want to do anything to hurt her (not that being white, black, or mixed is bad, I just feel like there is a "right" answer, but I don't know what that answer is)! I ended up checking multiracial, but I felt SO MUCH PRESSURE to not mess this up. Is this normal? Have any of y'all felt this with your little ones?