Recently some stuff has happened between my mother, my boyfriend, and myself and it's blown up to the point where I'm not sure if I want my mother in my life anymore or not. Basically I was staying with my mom to be closer to my new job until my boyfriend got our apartment and everything moved over on the first of August. Everything was fine the first week I was there, then the second week came..

Some stuff happened with my boyfriend and my little sister while my mom and I were still at work (we get off at the same time), and she was mad about it. So had messaged me on Facebook and asked me if my boyfriend and I could go home because of the situation. I was a little irritated and stated my frustration because my boyfriend and I don't have the money right now to pay for all the gas to drive back and forth. Once I got off, I stopped by the house and picked up my boyfriend and my son to go meet our sitter that would be watching my son during the week when we worked. We were gone for around two hours (our sitter is a family friend, so we caught up and visited for awhile).

When we got home, my mom and her boyfriend weren't home. My phone was off and I noticed that my mom had left her phone. I grabbed it to call her boyfriend's phone and see where they were at. The second I unlocked her phone, it pulled up the texts between my mom and her boyfriend. I know I shouldn't have read them, but I saw my boyfriend's name. I read them (I know I shouldn't have), and they were talking about my boyfriend in a really rude way. They said that they didn't want to come home because he would be there (he was going to stay the night because we were going to an amusement park the next day), and they also went on to say how it was "screwed up" that we were staying there even though my mom offered her spare bedroom to us.

I told my boyfriend about the texts because they really upset me. They pissed him off and he stormed out right as they got home. My mom came into my room and asked me why, and when I confronted her, I was apparently the bad person and everything was my fault (which is whatever because I know I shouldn't have read the texts, but they still upset me). This led to a two day lecture from my mother about how my boyfriend is a fuck up and is stupid because he wouldn't help a 13 year old with something she didn't even ask him to help her with (????).

Then Wednesday, my boyfriend had brought our son back to me (he had family in town that wanted to see him, and I would've gone too had I not have been at work). I was tired of hearing my mom complain about him, and so I asked him to apologize to her so it could just stop being a thing. My boyfriend being stubborn said no because he didn't do anything wrong and didn't feel the need to apologize (which I understand, but whatever). His reply really made me angry, so I told him that he needed to put his pride aside and think about me and his son and how we're in the middle of all of this.

My mom had come outside when I had said that, and so I turned and said the same thing to her, which made her angry. She walked over and started yelling about how my boyfriend should have helped and how he's at fault for the whole argument, even though it's really because my sister didn't ask. My mom and boyfriend then started yelling at each other, which led me to step in and tell them that they needed to calm down and they would be able to take turns talking about whatever issue they have with each other in order to work all of this out and so maybe they could get along.

This led to a two hour conversation of all three of us taking fault for things in the past as well as the lack of communication when it comes to the issues. When my mom would start getting a little too defensive, she would blame things on me and how I like to "pin people against each other," even though I've never done anything like that. This upset both my boyfriend and I that she would say anything like that, but my boyfriend did a good job at redirecting it towards other issues. Then all of a sudden, my mom blew up and yelled "Well I guess everything is just my fucking fault," got up and stormed back inside. Meanwhile my boyfriend and I are just sitting there trying to even figure out where it came from.

My boyfriend was so upset that he started crying because he finally thought he was getting somewhere with her and that they were finally going to be able to work through their issues and make everything okay. I told him that I was going to go inside and get my shoes and tell my mom that I would be right back so I could take my boyfriend on a ride to calm him down before I let him drive himself home. I open the door and I hear my mom telling her boyfriend about how my boyfriend and I were attacking her and blaming everything on her. I got mad and said that that wasn't what happened at all and that she was lying. Her boyfriend then opened his mouth and told me to shut up and leave, I told him that I was going to as soon as he realized that she was lying. He wasn't out there, so he couldn't just go off of what my mom was telling him. As I was telling him that, he called me a mouthy little bitch and my mom just let him.

At this point I got so mad that everything just went hazy and I don't remember much except for grabbing what I needed, grabbing my son, and screaming as soon as I got in my car. My boyfriend drove us home, and I came too when we were walking into our apartment. I cried for 4 or 5 hours and didn't sleep at all. I messaged my mom the next day and told her that I wasn't choosing between her or my boyfriend, and she told me that she wants me to pick my boyfriend because he's the father of my child. She then went on to tell me that she never liked my boyfriend (after telling both my boyfriend and I that she considers him family and that she loves him - my boyfriend and I have been together for two years). So she basically made a decision for me, and blocked my number and blocked me on Facebook.

I've been upset since this all happened last Wednesday and haven't been able to focus on anything. My son's first birthday is this week, and I know that my sister is coming, but I'm not sure about my mom and her boyfriend.. She had asked if they were still allowed to come before she blocked me, and I told her that I didn't care as long as she didn't talk to my boyfriend and I. She just said "lol k." I just am really unsure about everything and what I should do.. Should I try to fix things with her and just talk to her when I have to, or should I cut her out completely? I don't want my son to grow up without people in his life, but with how manipulative my mother is, I just don't know what to do...

(SORRY FOR SPELLING/GRAMMER. I'M BAWLING MY EYES OUT WHILE TYPING THIS AND HOPING MY PHONE CATCHING THE THINGS THAT NEED CHANGED).