His parents think I'm going to take advantage of him
So a little back story. My boyfriend an I are 23 & 24. I've had Crohn's disease since I was 15 and it had gotten really bad about a year and a half ago, right around the time me and my boyfriend met. He was a saint and was by my side through the entire thing even when he just met me, it was like we were each other's best friend and never wanted to be away from each other. I slowly but surely started feeling better in march. I had to drop out of work and school medically because of how much I was in the hospital and could not do anything because of the pain. His parents knew about this and even felt really bad for me (which I didn't want them to) because before I met my boyfriend I was working 2 jobs, an internship and going to school full time. I was a go getter and I pushed myself too hard which is why I got so sick.
Anyways, his parents and the rest of his family really loved me, and I loved them just as much. My boyfriend and I planned on getting married in a year and a half. He was at the police academy for 6 months and I did everything and anything for him and I thought I really showed my boyfriend and his parents how much I truly loved their son. However, we found out I was pregnant back in May. Very unexpected because with my medical issues I was told I was not fertile at the moment. He just got his career started, I just got a job I'm starting in august and I go back to school in September to finish my bachelors by spring. I'm now 14 weeks.
We told his mom before his dad and she was handling it well. She just wanted to make sure "I pulled my weight too and it wasn't just him working" which I was a little offended by because I thought they knew me better than that. Last night while
My boyfriend was at work his mom told his dad and was not happy. And my boyfriend told me "they just don't want their son being taken advantage of" (meanwhile my boyfriend is telling me he's standing up for me telling them I'm not like that) but I am just so hurt by this, I have not stopped crying.
I do understand they are being protective and we are not married yet. But we planned on it way before our baby was in the picture.
I have looked at these people like my own family for a year and I thought they looked at me like their own daughter. They definitely know me better than that. I have a very kind heart, I am a hard worker, although this disease has caused me so much pain and trouble and I show them on a daily basis and go above and beyond, how much I adore and love their son. It's just so hurtful that I have to "prove myself" to them. And I feel like I'm constantly going to be fighting to stand up for myself and I'm not sure what to do or how to feel. Has anyone ever gone through this?
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