Okay so this comes with back story. My husband and I got married in 2015 had a wedding shower that I didn't want to have, and had a decent sized wedding. In 2016 we had a baby shower that I personally didn't want to have either. It's not my thing to be front and center, but I did it for my mom and my husband.

He wanted to have a huge party for our baby's Baptism and I said no because I was partied out and don't want to look like I'm looking for reasons to get gifts. His mom was upset because the baptism was super low key, with just our parents, sibling and god parents. She thought it was rude that I wasn't inviting her four sisters. Whatever, it's done and over with and personally saved us money.

Skip to present day my husband wanted to have a big party for our daughters first birthday. I agreed to it for his sake because I said no to the baptism. Again, not my thing but I did it. We celebrated this past weekend and it ended up being nice and I'm glad I did it.

Today we went over to his moms house to drop food off, and they were asking what we are doing on our daughters actual first birthday. My husband said nothing special, well they asked 4 times so I know they are hinting at coming over. After we left his mom texted him saying we should all go out to eat. He just never responded. His mom gets a ton of people for all her kids birthdays and celebrates at a restaurant. Well that's fine for her own tradition but we are our own family now starting our own traditions.

I told my husband that the point of celebrating her birthday was to get everyone together and we did just that. I asked if on her birthday we could celebrate this first one with just him and I and he agreed. I told him next year we obviously aren't throwing her another giant birthday so we could invite her over but I don't want her thinking that her taking us out to eat with a giant crowd is the new tradition.

What are everyone's thoughts about excluding outside family so we can have an intimate family birthday celebration? I have a feeling she's not going to take this too well.