Why do I feel unsatisfied with a good man...

Question

He's a great guy. Awesome with the kids and always works hard on our relation..
I just feel so distant from him. He doesn't hold my hand much or kiss me "sweetly", there's hardy no non sexual touch. 
I don't feel in love or that he's really into me. It kills my mood to have sex with him. 
He's only said I live twice and he was drunk . 
It's been almost more that 5 months. 
Why was that in love feeling never there? 
Should I just accept that this is how he is, how we are? 
I'm missing the emotional connection.

Answer

It takes more than just being a good man. There are lots of good men out there, but that doesn't mean you're going to be compatible with all of them. What you can try is to voice your feelings to him and ask for what you need. Just let him know that it would make you feel more loved if he were to actually say it to you every now and then or to give you some physical affection that is not sexual. Let him know that you are hurting inside because that type of connection is missing. Tell him you really want to work on that with him. Sometimes men just don't know what we want or need and they just need to be told. Many times they are willing and able to give you what you need. Other times, not so much. That's when you have to decide whether or not you are compatible. You can also try counseling, and see if you can come to common ground there. Sometimes it really does take the view of an outside party to get two people to come to an understanding of what the other needs and learning the best ways to communicate those needs to one another. The third thing is that sometimes there is something within us that needs to be healed and resolved before we can feel happy and satisfied with anyone. Sometimes it takes relying on ourselves for love and happiness so that we can just let others be who they are and let them off the hook for needing them to be your source of happiness.

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lately i've been feeling the same way. it's been 3 days after a big fight and i had to distance myself for the sake of my own happiness. sometimes it's ok to be selfish, i guess you can say.
as much as i miss him, i've never felt more alive by enjoying my own company. i sing to myself, dance, read, spend time with family, cook, clean, anything to keep my mind busy and on the go.
trust me when i say, if you can't be happy alone, no one can make you happy!
don't use the kids as a crutch to stay because they feed off of your energy. be the strong woman you know you are deeply inside.

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he may not be one for needing that kind of love where as you do. you need to communicate with him and tell him how you feel otherwise you will never get what you want. some people need physical and verbal kind of love. where as others can go without it. my SO isnt one to hold hands or kiss in public(even just pecks) but I like having that and he is very verbal needing me to tell him I love him and how much I want him which isnt much of my thing so we both dont match as far as how we need to feel loved by one another but we talk about it and have figured out that we need to compromise to make each other happy even if we feel weird doing it the way the other wants it because we love each other and want each other happy. communication is needed to be able to make it work. do you should talk to him and let him know that. you can't improve it if you do nothing about it.

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You've only been together 5 months? IMO that's a bit too soon to know if you really love someone or are compatible with them long term. I think maybe slow down a bit and think that maybe he does have feelings for you, but isn't ready to say it just yet?

Why do I feel unsatisfied with a good man...

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