I have never liked the idea of baby showers.

- I don't like being the center of attention.

- I don't have close connections with too many people we would be inviting (husband's extended family mostly).

- I don't like that baby showers ignore partners in favor of mom.

- I don't want to pay for food that may get wasted.

- I don't want to stress about ANYTHING during my pregnancy. Especially about some party.

HOWEVER, my husband thinks we should have one so we can get stuff for the baby from our friends and family. That completely goes against my idea of a gathering or a celebration. I don't want to mooch off people to get free stuff but I cannot say it wouldn't be helpful.

I would rather people give gifts because they want to than under the guise of a formality for a baby shower.

So, what is a better way to celebrate our baby coming into the world? Something low key and with close friends and family.

I thought maybe something after the baby was born so he/she can get used to being around people? We are keeping the gender a secret as well so gendered baby shower is not an option.

Anyone have other ideas?