I think my husband is depressed

I've posted a couple time... I'm 9 weeks pregnant and my husband asked for a divorce. This baby was planned. Asking for a divorce was a complete shock. I'm devastated. I've long suspected that my husband suffered from depression...

I've asked to seek counseling in the past but he thinks he's fine...

He is choosing to sleep in another room and he said he didn't want to go to church... so I left him alone this morning but I did texted him this;

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Yesterday you said you'd be open individual counseling. And if someone could a provide logical explanation with evidence for what you were experiencing you'd listen.

Tell me if any of the resonates with what you've been experiencing. I have more articles from better peer review journals.

"Do you feel irritable, isolated or withdrawn? Do you find yourself working all the time? Drinking too much? These unhealthy coping strategies may be clues that you have male depression.

Symptoms may include:

Feel sad, hopeless or empty

Feel extremely tired

Have difficulty sleeping

Not get pleasure from activities they once enjoyed

Escapist behavior, such as spending a lot of time at work or on sports

Alcohol or drug abuse

Controlling, violent or abusive behavior

Irritability or inappropriate anger

Risky behavior, such as reckless driving

Failure to recognize depression. You may think that feeling sad or emotional is always the main symptom of depression. But for many men, that isn't the primary symptom. For example, headaches, digestive problems, tiredness, irritability or long-term pain can sometimes indicate depression. So can feeling isolated and seeking distraction to avoid dealing with feelings or relationships.

Downplaying signs and symptoms. You may not recognize how much your symptoms affect you, or you may not want to admit to yourself or to anyone else that you're depressed. But ignoring, suppressing or masking depression with unhealthy behavior will only worsen the negative emotions."

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This describes him perfectly. He said he's willing to go to counseling. But he was super defensive. I just wish I could get him to soften and open up a little bit. I'm afraid the Counselor won't be able to get through to him.

I feel like I'm drowning

I'm so sad... I'm trying not to stress because I know it's bad for the baby but my heart hurts so much. He's being so cold to me. If I wasn't pregnant I'd leave... I do love him and I don't want to give up in my family.

Anyone have a spouse dealing with depression? How do you support them?