This post is all about validating your feelings and giving you some support because I know damn well this subject is hard to get support on. If you don't need the support you shouldn't be on this post. None of your negativity is allowed here.

You have every right to be against porn especially in a relationship. It isn't natural, it was created to make money. It lowers a mans sex drive and the proof is that he'd rather jack it than have sex with you simply because they need something more and more extreme/not realistic. It's toxic as hell and people don't realize that this IS YOUR BUSINESS. You're a couple. Everything should be about compromise and boundaries. Porn is something that should easily be given up and if you can't, it's an addiction. When you hear the word addiction, what's the first words that pop into your head? Drugs? It's bad? Addiction isn't a good word. It was made to be addictive, they wouldn't make money off it if it wasn't. It ruins relationships. Put your foot down ladies! Don't let this toxic shit take away your confidence. Don't just let things slide because you don't want to seem crazy or controlling. It isn't controlling to let your partner know you don't want them to look at another female sexually, that you don't want them undressing women with their eyes. It's a natural response. Next time you hear "men will be men" just know that that's directed towards men. Why can't women be addicted to porn? If it doesn't apply to women then a man can damn well stop it too. You need know that when someone wants a relationship with you and seems to want to settle down, they need to respect your feelings and know what comes with settling down. It's time to grow up because once you start a family, that's your priority. If they're making porn a priority and not listening to you, trust me, there's better out there. Don't let this toxic shit take over your life and strip everything from you including your confidence. Being insecure is a natural part of being in a relationship as well as jealousy and protectiveness to an extent of course. You're a TEAM. Not 2 separate lives doing what you want but having the status of being together. You listen to each other and respect each others feelings no matter how small.