Dear Mother-in-law

First off I will never call you mom. You are not my mom and you don't behave as a good mother. You are controlling and selfish and you are ruining your family. At first I liked you when I started dating your son but as the relationship got more serious you got crazier, I mean who texts their sons girlfriends mom at midnight claiming that she needs to make me dump your son because I am corrupting him and we are obviously having sex and sinning when at that point in time he'd only ever kissed me twice I MEAN WHO FREAKING DOES THAT?!?! Then when you can't make the relationship end you force his poor younger siblings to go on every date every outing every hangout with us, any time we are together and you aren't there? CONTROLLING AND CRAZY

You put an app on his phone so you can read all of our texts to make sure you can trust us??? WHEN HE WAS 18!?!

FREAKING PSYCHO

when after THREE YEARS of dating we slip up a bit and mess around you FLIP YOUR CRAP AND MAKE SURE THE WHOLE WORLD KNOWS

We repented we grew closer as a couple and to God we changed our ways and you still wouldn't let it go. To this day you make nasty comments about our past mistakes.

You constantly degraded me, threw serious shade at me, mocked me, pitted you're eldest son against me, and made me know I was an unwelcome member of your sons life every chance you got for FOUR YEARS all while saving face and publicly acting as tho you thought I was a new daughter you welcomed with open arms. YOUR'E INSANE

You only began to truly be kind and accepting of me when your eldest sons wife refused to let you control their marriage and when she refused to let you control the way she raises her child SO YOU FLIP YOUR CRAP! You destroyed this family by telling them that they are not welcome members of the family until they can learn to respect you??? More like let you control them. And instead of telling your husband that you cut ties, that you pushed them out, you lied. You told him that they hate this family and that she is crazy and brainwashing your son into hating you all. You tell anyone who will listen that your first daughter in law is mentally unstable and an unfit mother never once mentioning the things you said or the fact that she literally almost died with this pregnancy and that she has serious post partum anxiety, YOU MAKE JOKES ABOUT TAKING CUSTODY OF THEIR CHOLD BY FORCE!!!

And you did all of this crap two weeks before my wedding to your second son... forever tainting the memory of my wedding because on what was supposed to be the happiest day of mine and my now husbands life's I spent my time after the reception, not enjoying the new level of intimacy available to me and my husband, no consoling him because you made it impossible for his older brother, the man he looks up to a loves. His favorite person to be at his wedding. Now you try to tell me how to spend my money and how to be a "better wife and future mother " WHEN YOU HAVE BEEN IN SERIOUS DEBT MULTIPLE TIMES YOU OWE MULTIPLE OF YOUR CHILDREN THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS YOU CONTINUALLY LIE TO YOUR HUSBAND ABOUT EVERYTHING FROM MONEY TO CUTTING OUT YOUR CHILD FROM YOUR LIFE !!!!! You are in NO position to tell me how to be a wife an mother. You have taught your children that relationship are nothing but the physical aspects of it but that the physical aspect is wrong. You constantly make jokes about sex and degrade your children publicly and then wonder why multiple of your sons have or have had porn addictions and why your daughter is so self loathing because she has a large chest and is beautiful so she thinks all men will only use her for. Never that a man can love and cherish her for who she is. You are a sick screwed up person who is ruining her children. You control every aspect of their lives and they have no freedom or ability to make independent decisions.

You should feel grateful that I loved your son enough to put up with you for this long but just know if you treat me the way you treat my amazing sister in law, if you try to control my marriage and if you EVER EVEN THINK about controlling the way I raise my babies I will not hesitate to cut you out the way you cut your son out. And just you. I will always accept Dad, yes your husband my father in law is dad. Because he treats me with kindness and respect he is a second father figure to me.

Now this being said I do have to thank you, because you have birth to a beautiful person I got to marry, and somehow all of your controlling ways affected him differently than his siblings he is strong willed and independent and kind and honest and confident. He is perfect. And I have to thank you for your other wonderful children you brought into this world they are the extra siblings I didn't know I was missing. You are insane but you provide me a second family just not a second mother. But thats ok my actually parents are pretty perfect for me so I don't need another mom .

Signed the daughter-in-law who won't take your bull

shit.