Did I was assaulted, molested, raped? help me to understand.

Hi! As the title says I need help to understand what happened to me as a child. This is going to be long and with to much information. Everything started when my mom cheated with my dad's best friend and leave him for this guy, he was very nice the first year, then my grandmother came and take us to live with her, during this time my uncle was in high school, he used to sat me on the stool, put my underwear down and touch me, or put my shirt up and touch me, I was around 4 years old, I never told my mom about this. Then one day she got bus tickets and we went back to my dad's best friend. One morning my mom when out with my sisters, I was on bed doing some crafts, he was with me and from one moment to the other I saw him on top of me rubbing his penis on my vagina, I tried to scream but he cover my mouth and told me that nobody was going to help me,I was around 5 to 6 years old, when my mom came back she knew that something happened, she asked me if something happened and I told her what he did, she ended up with a bruised face, after that day, he keep doing the same thing, my mom keep telling him to stop and she always ended up with a bruised face, after a few times she didn't said anything, as I was growing up I tried to defend myself. Everytime that he went somewhere he took me with him, and everytime he did something to me, I always pretend that it wasn't me, I put my mind somewhere else until he was done with me, I didn't feel anything the whole time, not even his weight, it was like if I wasn't there, my mom knew what was going on, she even told him to fuck me so he would leave alone, some nights he made touch his penis, some days he did oral sex on me and he bit me down there, I wanted to tell somebody about it, he always told me that if I talked to somebody he was going to kill my sisters and mom in front of me and take me as his wife, he hit my mom a lot so I knew that he wasn't lying about it. During this time his brother also touch me a couple times. Everything stopped in the summer of 2005 (I was 12 years old), he almost killed my mom in front of us, my youngest sister was 4 years old. Years later I talked to someone about what happened and apparently he never did penetration, I even remember him telling me everytime that he didn't went inside me, he wanted to keep me as a virgin until I was more older. I got married almost three years ago, my husband told me that I was a virgin... I don't know how he knew because he was also a virgin. When people asked me I said that I was raped as I child, but the more I grow, the more I read I feel like I wasn't raped, because he never penetrate me, so what happened to me? I feel that if I finally understand what really happened to me, I'll be more happy. Thanks for reading me.