I'm ready but I'm borderline clueless?.

My boyfriend and I have been planning on having sex together, with double protection (condom & I'm on the pill). I know I'm ready and that I want him to be my future. We've both talked about what we're comfortable with. I've given him head a few times but he's never climaxed Bc we've been interrupted. I'm scared it will hurt, and that I'll be too tense for him to do anything. I'm not very confident with my vagina, but he makes me feel like a goddess. I'm gonna be myself of course and go with "the flow" but I'm scared of messing up and it not being good enough for him.

So I have a few questions..

no please don't tell me that if I'm either confused or questioning things that I shouldn't have sex but I want too.

How can I lighten my vaginal area?

How can I make it feel better for him?

What are some things I can do to make him enjoy it just a little better?