Scared! Some tips?

I used a diva cup for one whole period and on the last ish day before bed I put it in and the grip went sideways a bit and it felt like it was literally grinding up my lady bits 😩. I could barely stand it hurt so bad from the stem poking me... I am kind of scared to put it back in because of that and I don't want to cut the stem but I might have to! Is it still easy to get out without it because I rely on it to wiggle the cup out!! Help!