Miscarriage and insensitivity?

Question

When you miscarried, did you find that people had a hard time talking to you about it or they were flat out insensitive? 
My husband and I have never wanted children so when we found out we were pregnant, it was a shock. We lost it at 12 weeks, and I had/have a very hard time talking about it. 
But now, months later I still have people asking/saying 
"when will y'all try again?"
"Are you trying again yet?"
"Did it even matter since you didn't want kids?"
"Well at least you didn't want kids to begin with"
My cousin literally just messaged me out of the blue to ask when I'm getting pregnant again. 🙄

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People asked all the time until I got drunk one night and posted like 6 articles and videos about it on fb😂 nobody has brought it up since

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Unfortunately comments like that are far too common, I think people who haven't been through the loss of a child can be oblivious to how it feels.
I lost my son at 28 weeks and often get the when are you going to try again, at least you know you can get pregnant, and my least favourite of all telling me it obviously wasn't meant to be and that it's God's will (I'm not at all religious so that is the opposite of comforting). I've even had the shouldn't you be over it by now comments... erm no, my baby boy died as he was cut out of my womb, it's not the same as when your hamster died when you were 5!  
I'm very sorry for your loss, hang on in there and know we are always here if you need to vent x

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I'm so sorry for your loss.  I lost my baby at 9 week and had my D&C; on August 1.  We have only talked to immediate family and one of my friends about it.  Mainly for fear of dealing with comments like these.  In my immediate family my mom, sister and sister in law have all experienced miscarriage.  So talking to them was easy because they had been through it.  I do find that I have to bring it up to talk about because I think they just don't want to upset me.  So if I'm with them and feel like talking about it, I do.  
I think most people just don't know what to say.  But that doesn't excuse them from saying rude things.  Sending you lots of hugs and good thoughts.

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I'm so sorry for your loss. I recently had a miscarriage also 6 weeks ago.  my family didn't really bring it up much, as they didn't want to make me upset. recently about two weeks ago I went to urgent Care. they asked "when was your last period?" I proceed to tell the nurse(who was male) that I had yet to have a period due to my miscarriage. I had my son with me at the time, and the nurse says "well you don't really need another one right now, the one you have is already a lot"  I didn't know how to feel when he said. everybody else just keeps say "you're young. you can try again."

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Thats so insensitive 😡 everyone needs time to grieve people dont even think :/

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