Where do I begin? First off my parents are divorced. They have been for 10 years. The process started when I was 13-14. I'm 24 now. I'm married to an amazing husband. I just seem to have some trouble with my dad. He's remarried now. I believe he got married in 2009. At the time my brother and I were not speaking to him, so we weren't invited to the wedding. I brought my dad back into my life when I met my husband. The years before that it was an on and off relationship. I was young and had no idea if I could forgive or forget all the hurt he caused me, my brother, and my mother. After a few therapy sessions I decided he's my dad I can't change that. I love him no matter what. I still never forgot the past. I put it all behind me. Now his wife on the other had I don't really care much for her. She doesn't make him happy and I can see that. She's in a wheel chair and needs 24/7 care. She seems to think he shouldn't have fun and that as his daughter I'm a bad influence on him? He's 59 years old?!?! He's old enough to make his own decisions. Anyway she has a daughter my age. Actually her and I grew up together. We always said it would be cool if we were sisters. It's kind of ironic if you think about it. Her mom was my moms best friend. That is part of the hurt he put us through.

To get to my point, my husband and I got married last year. We didn't have the money to host a wedding. We decided the best option was to invite close family and friends to the court house for a ceremony performed by a judge. Please no judging on this part! My dad did not get us a wedding gift. I didn't mind it much because I'm not into that type of stuff. I'm just happy he was there. He kept bringing it up until he got sick. He had an infection in his blood stream. He almost died. I was there every single day for him. I've been there since. Nobody saw him the way I saw him. As I write this now it brings tears to my eyes to relive the lifelessness I saw. I've never seen my daddy that way and I never want to again. My heart broke! I left his side for 2 hours one day to see my dr and had a panic attack in the drs office because my step sister decided to call me and tell

Me something about him that wasn't exactly correct.

Anyways my step sister is getting married in a couple weeks. I know my dad has bought her things. He also mentioned she had a surprise for him. Not sure if it's at the wedding or before, but I feel uneasy about it. I pray that's it's not a father daughter dance. I wasn't able to have my big wedding, I wasn't able to have MY father daughter dance. I'll be damned if she get MY dad for her dance! Am I wrong to feel so me type of way about all of this?? Advice is welcomed!!! And no rude remarks!!!!! Thanks! Sorry for it being so long!

UPDATE: for those of you that think it's pettt or selfish, don't comment. I don't think I detailed this as much as I should have. Why would I feel ok with this if she doesn't care about him? She's made that clear! She does not give a SHIT about my dad! Why would she want him to be involved in any way? Because it makes her look good? If you think it's selfish it petty please elaborate! And no I didn't have a wedding. I COULDNT AFFORD IT! I am his ONLY daughter, my brother his ONLY son. Why should we have to endure the discomfort because she's our step sister and it's her wedding? I get life isn't about fair, but there needs to be boundaries for this. A lot of the comments are right, I need to talk to him. I need to sort it out with him. And thank you to those who don't think I'm being selfish. As every little girl does, they plan in their head their dream wedding. I too did that. My dream wedding included my father daughter dance. I unfortunately couldn't have that. So should I lose out because of her? When I can afford to have a wedding, I will. Even if I had my wedding I dreamed of, I still wouldn't feel comfortable with this. If any of you want to walk in my shoes, and really get to understand what I went through with my parents your more than welcomed to. Maybe then, you'll be able to understand where I'm coming from!