I just gotta say it.

Stop saying "All lives matter," fellow white people. Just stop. Duh, all lives matter.but some, in the past, have been less protected by our police, our judicial system, and still are. When a young teenager can. E shot dead like a dog in the street and a man be protected by "stand your ground" rules (FYI - I fully support 2nd amendment rights; I don't support assholes who hide behind stand your ground in such a disgusting manner), we have to take a close look.

I have recently been told that the Black Lives Matter campaign is a failure because it doesn't unify the races. Well, I tell you, especially you in the all lives matter camp, why don't white people join Black Lives matter and stand up for their fellow man?

I am white, and from New England. I tried to pretend I was colorblind. Race didn't matter. My husband is black, from East Africa. He has the look of a god, chiseled from marble and the way the sun sets his dark skin ablaze is mesmerizing. Our son is a delightful mix of our features. Both could be stolen from me because of some racist a**hole with an axe to grind. I can't be colorblind because the world is not colorblind.

While the Martin case may be ancient history in the media, it's not ever buried. It still lives in. And many of my fellow white brethren do not understand the potential to lose someone because of an act of blind hatred and the fear that hatred inspires amongst white people. There have been many Ms. Martins for decades; grieving widows, son's, daughters, parents. And I could be one of them.

I hear my fellow white peoples talk about he black community needing to unite the country like it will be one big kumbayah, but where have we been? We should have been affirming that all live matter all along, not using it as a response to the BLM campaign because we need to not feel left out. To all those in that camp, I say maybe it's not real for you.

I cannot say, even now, that I fully understand the tears of every person that has known the sting of racism at that most abject level, that steals life; but I say that the ALM camp may have never known it.

And yes, I know there are black racists; I have encountered them. I have been called a trophy wife. Sometimes black people have glared at me in the car with my husband and cut us off in traffic, endangering my child. As heinous as this behavior is, as inexcusable, it is the exception. Far more times, my husband has been insulted. And I will weep with my child on more than one occasion before raising Cain.

We need to take a long hard look and live "all lives matter" before we start chanting it.