While fighting about catching my husband smoking cigarettes, he raised a completely separate issue that he's scared to have baby #2.

I'm so angry about the smoking that I can't address his fear until I've cooled off ... but I can't help but worry! He assures me he WANTS another baby but that he's scared. Asking him what he's scared about: 1) finances (valid) and 2) we won't have time for ourselves.

I'm just confused as to why he would bring this up now? He's always said to friends and family that "he's been ready" but this new discovery tells me otherwise. I've always been the one putting it off.

After a chemical pregnancy last month and being devastated, I realize that I'm more ready than I thought I was.

If he's so scared, why would he jump two feet in and BD every day during our fertile time? Why not raise these concerns BEFORE we get too deep in??