So I had my baby 11 weeks and 3 days ago and it was an amazing experience! I didn't have any pain since I had the epidural and it was so high that my left leg was completely numb and I felt zero pain, not even pressure. I had a 4th degree tear which healed perfectly 6 weeks later and I was able to resume exercise, sex and everything.

My question is for when we have our next baby, which we were thinking about in a year or 2, how do I know how much epidural to get to help me still have feeling down there and the urge to push? I had a long 2.5 almost 3 hours of pushing and I'm not sure if that resulted in the intense tearing but I wish I had more feeling so I would know how to push and get him out sooner. I know many of you ladies have had more experience which is why I am asking you.

Anyways, any tips are appreciated! Here is our son Henry neon 6/2/17. He's now 11 weeks 3 days old :)