Background info:

Im 21 years old and all my life my mom has wanted me to be like her and think like her . My sister has been there every time i made a deciding to guide me or tell me i was wrong. This stuff has been goin on my whole life . My mother dosent respect me as a mother because she feels "shes the mom" she dont have to do anything,let alone appologize for her wrongs.

Recent story: i was induced and i had my son june of this yr. during labor i opted for my mom and my fiances mom to leave for the night due to 1. Nothing happening yet till the next day and 2 because i felt like having my mother there would have been too much cause she always trying to take control. I chose to go about with just my fiance and i. We had been up all night and instructed both parents to come at 8 am in hopes that we can get a few hrs of sleep. Because i knew my mother wasnt going to respect my wish i put a sign on the door that said do not disturb untill 8am . My mother came to the hospital anyway and felt hurt by my decision.When my son was born i wanted my mom and his mom to be in the room but be somewhere over by the couch . I felt that having 3 ppl plus doctors by my bed would be tooo much . My mother didn't respect my wishes and ended up pushing my fiance out the way to get to me . After that my mother didnt come back to the hospital at all . Now a month or two later i talked to her about why i made those decisions and how it wasn't personal i just wanted my wishes respected because due to me fussing at her , my blood pressure skyrocketed during labor. Now last weekend after i came home from spending two weeks with my fiance in chicago , i went home. It was 11pm , my son goes to bed at 9:30 . At that time my son was sleep in his swing . As my fiance was leaving my son woken up a little and picked him up so he could say good bye,get his diaper changed and go to bed. My mother asked if he was awake. I said kind of but hes getting ready to get fed and diaper changed for bed. As we were saying goodbye to my fiance my mother her my so coo and came in and said "let me see him". as i was holding him she began to pull him from my arms . I then began to tell her wait a minute mom he has to go to bed and we are saying goodbye . She still insist and my fiance cuts in and says " you have to hold him you just cant come and pull from our arms "my mother than yells and said " im his grandmother i dont have to ask and from that point on my fiance starts yelling back and tells her how she tried to pull my son from his arms while he was feeding our son . My mom " shes not going to tolerate the disrespect " all while they are yelling i cut to try to explain both sides to them so they understand. They keep yelling and i ait down because for a sec i forgot my son was in my arms . I then ask them to not yell infront of him . My fiance askes my mom to take it in the hallway. My mom yells out and says "im not taking nothing in the hallway this is my house you dont tell me i have to ask to hold my grandson" my fiance says "thats my son as his dad im asking you to do that" my mom then says then " take ur son and leave dont come back here" she then looks at me and says" u know we dont do that here you have to pack your stuff and go" and so i left . My sister blames me and says i chose a man over family when i left for my own personal reason.

Ladies your thoughts please!!!!