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I feel like I've had a baby for everyone else

So 4 days ago I had my baby boy, and he's beautiful, and amazing, and I've never been happier.. However, I feel like I've had a baby for everyone else, no one seems to wonder how I'm doing etc, just all about my partner and my baby, I understand as it's mainly his family (i don't have alot of family or friends) but things like when his sister and mum visit they help themselves to the baby and hold him for hours and don't even speak to me.. I'm supposed to be going to his familys house for the day this week but I just really don't want to go, I sort of want my baby to be mine for a little while you know? Is this selfish? I feel bad and I understand it's all exciting and everyone wants to be around him etc but I just want some alone time just me and him and maybe just someone to ask if it's ok to just wake him and pick him up rather than assuming they can because they are family. Sorry about the rant.

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MB

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I don't think you're being selfish at all! I would definitely make some rules now, specifying what you want/need. As far as waking the baby, I personally would put an immediate stop to that. You can just say nicely, "our pediatrician asked us to not interrupt his sleep, so please wait until he wakes"... they can't argue with that if you make it sound like the doctor said it. Secondly, don't feel bad by not going to events, or even not letting them come over... it's your baby and your time with him is the most important... they can take the leftovers, not you.

Me

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If you don't want to go then don't go. You birthed that baby. You were pregnant with tat baby. Not them. It's YOUR baby & your allowed to be selfish.

Ch

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I would have a fit. You are not being selfish or unreasonable is anyway. If you don't want to go then don't. And if you choose to go make rules, they didn't grow your little one in their womb you did. Your baby your rules. If they don't like it they can kick rocks.

C

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No you are not selfish. You just had a baby for Pete's sake! Tell them that you need time to rest and bond with the baby for a few weeks and they can come over when that time is up. It's important for you to rest and stay home with your baby boy.

J

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girl, same exact boat. my husband has a huge and very close latin family while i basically have no family. we had our first kid 9 months ago and 10 minutes after I pushed him out his family was already there...we didnt even get moved to recovery yet! and the DAY i got home from the hospital with the baby, our house was full of over 30 family memebrs, ALL his family. but honestly, just get their time "overwith" as mean as it sounds. then you'll have your time. and if you really dont wanna go, then dont. YOU labored that baby!! not them.
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