ok so my friend is really good at doing hair and she made a wig and it looked wonderful ! i asked her to make me one when my other friend said

and we were really confused and THEN he said

and then we were kinda upset . a little backstory , he's called us the n word (we're all black , he's filipino) before and JUST RECENTLY we called him out for referring to himself as a "chigga" . so we've already kinda had this conversation with him . but then he asked us to educate him on appropriation so me and my friend try .

and then he brings up perming and straightening hair ! (completely disregarding the explanation my friend just gave him)

at that point i gave up and left , but then he sends this while i'm out of the group message

we just don't know what to say to him to help him understand . what should we do ?