Yea I went through his phone. Sue me.

I really don't care that some people believe it's wrong. I can see wanting privacy and that's fine. I don't go digging for every little thing. I only do this when I get a funny feeling. But I do have a lot of trust issues that he has placed there and that's why I do it.

So if you have anything negative to say about me going through his phone, scroll on. If not. Then continue reading and give me advice please.

This girl I have figured my guy has cheated on me with. It was a while ago and we got past it. Or I have at least. I dont have actual proof that he did.

Anyways, to give him the benefit of the doubt, I have asked him to ask her if she would like to come up for dinner. I myself have even asked her. She has never declined my invites, but never responded or accepted either.

Before these messages are messages I had found a few months ago that made me think he did something or was planning on doing something with her. So they aren't relevant to the topic at hand, just giving a little back story.

I saw this last night. My guy works for a tour company for bears. So the fact she reached out to him with this didn't bother me. It also only slightly bothered me that he responded with "hun" but I don't know. Sometimes he calls his close friends that. So I'm not looking too deep into it.

My complaint is when this morning before he left for work, he said this girl is "dead to me" because she was asking for a "free tour" and he told her "hell no".

The story he gave me was completely different then what had actually happened.

Now I'm confused. Why would he make an elaborate story when it's not even close to what actually happened??

He also said that he's invited her many times for dinner but she's never responded.

I've never seen one message from him inviting her. I mean, it could've happened and maybe it was deleted. But now I actually am wondering if he ever has.

Why would he lie like this?!

*ADDED NOTE*

I'm not fucking crazy. I haven't asked him about her for months. He randomly brought it up this morning for absolutely no reason. I also don't mind (if you had actually read the whole post, you would know this) that she wrote him about tours. I was giving you a back story and you took it out of context and twisted what I said.

Eat a bag of dicks if you aren't going to give helpful advice. There was absolutely no reason for him to have lied.