Between you and your SO

What's more important? In a relationship.. Respect? Money? Love? Friendship? I'm asking because, at the moment in my own relationship, I am not happy. My for now SO , wants me to show more respect but he can still do the same thing that causes us to argue. So I feel like, I'm being double standardized. If that's the correct way of saying it. How can you want respect from anybody who has no problem giving you all the respect in the world but can't simply return the same thing you're asking for ?