Controlling spouse

So I got married 5 months ago and already I'm unhappy!! My husband wants me to be a stay at home mom, but that's not me. Also I can't do things that he can, like going out of town for the weekend with my friends, or going to lunch with my friends. I'm 32 with 3 kids from a previous marriage and he talks crap about my kids, I'm lost and I don't know what to do! When I bring it up to him he just tells me it's all in my head or that I'm annoying! Not to mention my bff and one person who I could talked to passed away a month before I got married! Help!