I don't know why but I need clitoral stimulation to orgasm the majority of the time. the only way I can orgasm while having sex with my husband is if I'm on top. If I get eaten out i can orgasm easily but my husband won't do it. We have been married for 1 year 5 months and some odd days. He won't finger me or eat me out. I have begged him and he flat out refuses. I get a different reason every time. It's nasty, he doesn't want to, he will when he wants too not when I want him to. It's against his religion. And I found out the religion part was not true. several times he has said if I don't stop asking he never will. He said he will do it when he wants to. I went 6 months at on point not saying anything about it and he still hasn't. He has no problem with asking me to give him a bj but he doesn't want to return the favor. my self esteem is so low I feel like he thinks I'm nasty. But I take very good care of myself (better than him), I'm always clean shaven (except for the first week after my csection didn't want to shave that close to my insicion not that it mattered he wouldn't touch me then either. He made me wear thick pants to bed) it's like he thinks I'm nasty. I've wondered if it's a control thing with him. He has been controlling before. I think he feels in control when he tells me no because he knows how much I want it. I love him to death but I just feel like it's unfair to me. oh and one other thing he made sure to tell me that he did eat out his ex wife 😭😭 I've talked to him and told me how it makes me feel but he doesn't care