Sorry so long but not sorry

if someone posts that they are sleeping with a married man, im gonna tell you-you aint shit. and if a woman posts that she is getting cheated on or abused, 😒 when you see my comment 9/10 I'm gonna say leave the guy and dont feel bad abt it. Im so glad I realized how important and precious I am. smh. I watched abuse in my home growing up, was molested at a young age to later end up raped in my early adult years while I was in college on a damn date, a date that ended with me fighting for a life that belonged to ME!! In a later relationship (that I thought was monogamous) we planned a baby only to find out he cheated with a prostitute, which resulted in me having an std and having to abort my baby at 6 months (after feeling the baby move) or I and the baby would die. Relationships where because ALL i saw growing up was abuse I allowed a man to physically fight me because I thought that's what you do when you're mad, is hit. I have a 10 year old son from a man that in the beginning was amazing 2 years later we ended up pregnant only for him to run a train on a chick in my living room when I was at wrk with 4 other guys. everyone ended up with an std...including me at 5 months pregnant with a already high risk pregnancy because of the a**hole from years ago.... and I left at 5 months pregnant and never looked back. ocd, anxiety and depression stemmed from being dealt a effed up hand from a young age. today Im free from medication and free from men with no self control. married to a man who loves me and my son to death. i never accepted lies, cheating or excuses. I dont believe in poor excuses or someone knowing better, fucking up and then the woman having to deal with anxiety the rest or her marriage or relationship in fear of getting cheated on or hurt again. if you want to accept being mistreated go right on ahead. but dont comment after me expecting me to change my views because you decided to stay and be abused or cheated on with high hopes that he'll change. thats you. i think we forget how many other men are in this world. men looking for the same thing you're looking for. love and respect. some relationships DO work out after infidelity. BUT Im women can vouch for the FACT that it took a lottttt of exhausting work. usually when it works out you already had a man whoS mind was working around changing and being better. MOST times it doesnt work and as time passes you catch them doing something else they have no business doing. or you suffer from anxiety trying to do everything right but constantly looking for signs of cheating. driving yourself crazy missing out of LIFE. and that simply isnt fair. you dont have to agree we're all different from different walks of life but dont get under my comments talking shit because I believe in demanding respect from a man. we weren't put here to be watchdogs clouded with anxiety and fear but to love and BE appreciated respected and loved in return. ✌ queens