Relationship struggles

Hi so my husband and I have been arguing a bit recently and we were arguing the other day and it got a bit physical as in he grabbed and tried to stop me leaving the room as I wanted to leave the room so I could calm down but he just wanted to keep arguing and this was after I had tried to change the subject twice already as it was a stupid argument. It started when I asked him to put our 2 year old son to bed and he wanted to wait but then that would've meant him going to bed at 9:30 / 10.

Nonetheless I'm not sure what to do this isn't the first time it's happened but it's been years since it last happened and it's the only time it's happened since our son was born.

Should I leave or not he says he loves me and he did feel awful afterwards but I'm unsure now and I've been unhappy for a while but every time I try to bring it up he doesn't want to talk I think he's pretending nothing's wrong should I go counselling alone before I bring it up again (I'm also unsure if I'm depressed or not as that might be what's making me unhappy not my marriage)