Opinions on godfather role

Sorry for the length...

Alright so my SO has a best friend of about 10 years, this friend and I have had a mutual friendship for about 7 years. My SO and his friend were actually roommates for a year up until recently, so we actually all became pretty close because of me being at their house so much.

So, this friend starts hanging out with a new girl (not dating, just the first few "dates" stage) I knew of her, but only had talked with her a few times at the house. When I first found out I was pregnant (~7 weeks) we told the best friend I was. He also told this new girl in his life (mind you, I don't even know this girls last name, so why would I want her knowing I was pregnant??), I got over it. She then decided to take it upon herself to tell our WHOLE friend group at our Fourth of July party after I went to bed (I pretended to drink and I hid it very well from friends, as I OBVIOUSLY didn't want to announce to them or anybody yet), so two weeks later I'm getting drops from my friends about being pregnant, they were being weird towards me (asking specific random questions like "so if you ever had kids who'd be the god parents") and I knew they knew I was pregnant, but that was impossible because my SO, his best friend, and only this new girl knew...

So, I find out this new girl, that came outta the woodworks told all of MY friends I was pregnant, so I confronted her. I wasn't overly mean, I explained that was my place to tell somebody, and she shouldn't have done it just to fit in. This later causes the original best friend to BLOW UP on me and defend this new girl! Not just a simple, hey my girl didn't mean to, or she's sorry, nope it turned into him calling me disrespectful, names & banning me from the house (my SO was fully moving out in less than a month later anyways so no big deal).

So, in the first month of my pregnancy this friend was the only option for a godfather, all of our other friends (~23) still go to the bars weekly and haven't fully grown yet and we don't want an irresponsible person for our child. When this fight blew up, I told this friend he would not have contact with me or my child (yes that's how nasty our fight was) where he then said "I can't do that", uhhh last I checked this baby is coming out of my vagina, I can control who's in his life.

Anyways, so this friend keeps telling my SO daily that he wants to apologize, but I think that should've been done a long time ago (this happened 6 weeks ago), am I wrong for thinking an event that deserved an apology over a month and half ago is too far gone? Like at first I was so upset, but now I really don't care. This friend tried talking to me at the fair a week ago, but I told him it wasn't the time or place (I was watching a demolition derby)... he has PLENTY of time to give me a proper apology so that isn't an issue.

Should I accept an apology? Was I wrong for saying something to this new girl? (Mind you, him and this new girl are still just talking but he won't make it official with her because she's known for talking/sleeping with many guys) Can my baby have just a godmother? What should I do?

Honestly at this point I don't even want him in my life or my child's, but it really tears at my SO seeing as they were best friends for over a decade. My SO is hurt by the situation because at the end of the day it is the mother of his child and absolute best friend arguing, two of the people he loves most in his life... any advice is helpful

Update: we go to a Catholic Church and I have finished all of my steps, except marriage...