What do you do to take your mind off of TTC?

So it's been a long hard year of TTC with no luck. Hubby and I both had tests done and nothing showed up wrong so the doctor said if we want to go on with further tests, he'll refer us to a fertility specialist. Then he told me what everyone else has been telling me, "stop trying so hard and it'll happen." He told me not to stop trying, just to not make it such a big deal. It hit me hard. How am I supposed to just stop wanting what I want so bad? Yeah this whole TTC journey has overcome my life and it's all I think about now. I feel like if I stop trying so hard that it means I'm giving up. But I guess it all makes sense. Since TTC has been all I've been focusing on, it's causing me a lot of stress when I keep getting BFNs every month and then seeing all our friends getting pregnant and having babies. I'm going to try to focus on other things but I'm not sure what. Im at a loss. So my question to everyone on here is what do you do to take your mind off of TTC?