Kids or alone time?

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I love kids but I'm on the fence on whether to have them. I absolutely love alone time. If I don't get at least a few hours a day of laying in the dark in silence, I go crazy. I have issues going on group trips etc for this reason. I'm an extreme introvert and have sensory issues so that's how I recharge my battery.
Because I'm fairly self aware of my issues, I can't imagine having kids if it's as awful as everyone makes it sound. You'll get no time alone ever again, you won't even pee alone, you'll smell bad because you never shower. That sounds awful. I love spending time with my husband going out to eat, sleeping in and watching movies. I can't imagine never getting to pee alone or shower. And never getting to see a movie in a theater.
I'm just worried if I don't have kids I'll miss out. I was a daycare teacher and after school camp counselor for years and I absolutely loved every minute. I think my friends kids are the bomb.
Did anyone else have similar feelings before TTC?

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Then you definitely don't want kids! I know how you feel though my sons nap time is heaven!

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Women make it sound so much worse than it is lol seriously. They're so negative and discouraging. I've never understood women never showering and eating. I shower every single morning while my daughter naps. I'm still at the gym 6 days a week. I still have coffee dates with friends. We go out to eat every single weekend. We take her to baseball games. She's been to the zoo. We've taken her out of town a few times. She's at target on a daily basis. We do everything we used to do. The only difference is that we have a baby with us lol I honestly feel like women make it way more challenging and stressful than it has to be. Having a baby hasn't negatively impacted my life in any way.

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I am also an extreme introvert. I find my kids comforting and would rather spend EVERY single day and night at home with them than anybody else on the planet.

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I have kids and I still find alone time. If I don't have it I would lose my mind. I purposely give myself an hour when I get home to decompress in silence. 
I hang out with my girlfriends monthly and I take a girls or solo trip every year. 
Not everyone loses themselves in their kids. It's possible to have both

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I think you have every right to feel the way you do but kids mixed with your personality/desires wouldn't be a good thing , at least based on what you said! Not everyone is meant to have kids and that's totally ok!! I have  A 2 year old and a baby on the way, and yeah I haven't showered alone in 1 year . And no bathroom alone time unless my husband is home. Even in my first trimester this time I would throw up with my 1 y/o right there.. NOTfun. Zero alone time and yeah hardly any sleep!! So if you need alone time often, kids are not a good idea at all!

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Lets put it this way my 2 1/2 year old has been without me seriously maybe 3 days. 
As mom your their everything. They want you 24/7. As I'm typing this she is pushing me over so she can sit on thw couch with me. 
I would try a puppy first. Then multiply that by 1000. lol

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I definitely had concerns, which is part of why we waited till we were over 30 to have our first & spent plenty of time doing whatever we wanted. As mom to a 6mo, here is my experience: we still do lots of fun stuff (go out for a drink or brunch, hang with our friends)-- we just bring baby along, it's obviously different but lots of fun! I shower every day just fine, & I walk (& now jog too since baby is old enough) with baby in his stroller all over the place. My husband is super involved, so if I need a breather, he'll take baby & give me one, but clearly you'll have to say goodbye to a few hours every day by yourself (imo compromise is the main thing with what you've said, rather than giving up everything completely). I think my baby is super awesome & tbh I've never been interested in babies/little kids. :)

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