Ok so it's a long story this is what happened first

me and my boyfriend have been together almost a year and a half, he's just had to go away for 3 weeks for training and he's been back on weekends but we didnt get to see eachother much. He's back from training and he's been a bit off with me.

From Thursday to Sunday we've been arguing a bit ( admittedly it's him doing something small and I was on my period and I've kicked off A lot at nothing) I didn't realise at the time I was being unfair on him. I was just too stuck in what I thought. I've asked him if we're fine and said I'm sorry for the way I was and he's said we're fine but still being off with me.

Sunday night we had a chat and he says that he still loves me he wants to be with me and he still wants to move out with me just not as soon as we planned but he feels like our spark has faded and that we have nothing in common(which we have always known but it never bothered us before)

He says he needs time to think about things.

He's been in this situation before earlier on in our relationship where he was a bit off for a week and then was fine and admitted that he just needed to think about things. I told him I've had time to think about the way I've just been and that I feel bad and I didn't mean it and it's not going to happen again.

I know hes felt like this in the past few days and and the way I've been haven't helped.

Before the talk on Sunday we said on Wednesday I'd meet him at 4 at work then we started this situation so we haven't spoke because I was trying to give him space but I was getting so upset and needed answers so I just waited outside of work and surprised him so I could get the answers I needed so we go to his and we start talking and I said do you want to still be with me and he said yeah I asked if he still loved me he said yeah so I said what's the issue then and he was like I'm just worried for the future like would we be able to live together stuff so I was talking to him about how I felt and how I feel like I'm in limbo and how I love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him and then we were talking and he starts getting all emotional aswell so I held his hand and he gave it a little squeeze and I then started crying more and was saying I really love him and want to be with him but I can't sort this out on my own I need him to work at this aswell and then he just grabs my face and starts kissing me and then he just looks me in the eye and carries on and then we stopped and I was like if you still need space I can give you it and he was like no it's fine and he was wiping my tears and telling me he doesn't want to see me cry and asked me to stay the night so I thought cool we're on the mend like this Is progress.

Apparently not. So last weekend we had plans but they got ruined for reasons and we agreed that this weekend we would do last weekends plans then he was like just stay round Saturday instead of Friday night aswell and spending Sunday evening together but that was because of work so I was like hmm ok but now we need to pick what we're gonna do Saturday because I have 2 days worth of plans and only 1 day and he was like ok I'll let you know. So I asked him again and I was like what's happening Saturday and he was like oh I might be going clubbing now so I might not see you and it's annoyed me a bit because it's another weekend he's ditched me for something else and I can't even say anything about it because I said I would change with the moaning about him changing plans constantly (they are to see friends he doesn't see but he changes his plans all the time and I'm just left with no plans and doing nothing)but I just hoped that after us being on the rocks he would want to spend time with me and want to sort us out and be better but it feels like he can't be bothered

We love eachother very much but I feel like I'm fighting a loosing battle and it's hurting me and I can't keep doing it We agreed things won't go back to the way they were if we don't try but I feel like he's not trying.

These are the sort of texts he used to send me before all of this