Advice for a virgin who is about to lose their virginity?

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So I'm 20. NEVER had sex. I'm married.. that's the worst part. He's getting impatient and I'm so upset over it. The only reason I haven't had sex yet is because I'm scared it's going to hurt and bleed. Please help me. Even my 16 year old cousin has had sex.. that's embarrassing! Any advice or help? Ive never even used tampons or ever had anything up in me!

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Wow. How long have you been married for? It really isn't that bad. Just tell him to do a lot of foreplay. Some women don't experience any pain at all. It did hurt me my first time. I probably wasn't ready and was with some asshole but it wasn't a traumatizing amount of pain. Have him finger you a little first maybe. Use lube if you want and just enjoy the moment. Relax and have a good time with your husband.

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You shouldn't have sex just because he wants to. Especially if it upsets you. It hurts so much more if you put pressure on the whole thing. It will hurt way less if you do it with someone you're comfortable with and isn't selfish (sexually). Take it easy and slow. It should be fun, so have fun with it!

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It's really not all that bad. You just need to let yourself relax. When I lost my virginity at 17 I was super nervous. My legs were shaking so bad & I asked my SO at the time to please take it slow & he did. When it first went in I felt a little pain but then it started feeling good. It gets better!

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Make sure he gets you VERY wet! It's not that bad i promise! When you get into it you will wonder why you didn't do it sooner!! Have fun!!

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It's going to hurt for a bit so make sure to do a lot of foreplay.
Use lube to help and ask him to go slow and not thrust too fast right away.
It might bleed a little but it's ok.
Just relax and be comfortable so your muscles won't tense up and hurt you more.
You can do this girl!

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My first time wasn't planned at all. We'd been fooling around for a long time before hand so I was more than ready when it happened. Because I was very ready it didn't hurt at all, my hymen had already been broken as well from being so active as a child so no blood either. Really it's nothing to be scared of and once you do it you'll enjoy it all the time.

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It will be fine. Just relax and let it happen naturally. Set the mood...light some candles, turn on some slow jams and let it happen. It doesn't hurt if your in the mood.

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Condom. Comfort trumps sexiness. wear something you want to wear. Lots of foreplay and make it romantic. Make sure you are in a very private place. Other ppl in the house makes it hard to climax. Good luck to you and congrats

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I'm 16 and I've lost my virginity, but it isn't embarrassing at all if you have waited. I found my first time slightly painful because there was no foreplay and I was super uncomfortable. The advice I can give you is to talk to him about it before it happens. Make sure there is a lot of foreplay and you're actually turned on before you do the deed. Maybe take a relaxing bubble bath before so you're relaxed and comfortable.

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Everyone makes it seem like a life changing event, as if you'll never be the same again. I was 16 my first time  And let me tell you, I couldn't even fit two fingers. It was a little painful for a couple of minutes so we just stayed like that until I adjusted. He was gentle and I didn't bleed. It's really nerve wracking but I promise it's not going to change anything or you as a person. Start of slow and gentle and if you become uncomfortable at any point, tell him to stop and you need a minute or stop and we'll try later. Take your time.

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