May sound silly but help girls? 🙏🏼

When I masterbate, I can make myself cum using my clitoris, but when I have sex I'm wet but I'm not notably cumming, squirting, orgasming, or at least I'm not sure if I am. Are cumming and orgasming the same thing? It seems as though we all make a big deal out of an orgasm like it's 'out of this world' but I'm not sure if I'm just hard to please or I'm not even able to do it myself or with others? Confused 😕