i have a question about divorce

hernandez

in what circumstances do they give. shared custody like whats the reasoning? or if the mother asks can she get full but the father can also see the children whenever he wants like no restrictions but the mother has full custody? also if it was shared doesnt the father have to pay child support and if not alimony? my husband (currently seperated anout a week) told me that he was talking to ppl at his job and he kinda was telling me that he wanted shared custody since i wanted to work and not take care of our kids ( he says cuz we r inbetween getting a divorce or just being seperated and waiting awhile before we do)if i chose to divorce him he says he would fight to get shared costudy because he says he wants to be in our kids lives and since i wanna work because obviously we wont be together and if i get full custody child support wont be enough for my three kids anyways he says that he wont have to pay child support? is he right would he not have to pay i dnt wanna have an ugly divorce but i feel like he is either saying stay with me or divorce me and ill fight for joint custody and not pay a dime?

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no i just feel like he made it seem like either you saty with me or i will file for shared custody since u wanna work instead of stay home and take care of the kids to which even if we got a divorce i know i would have to work anyway so like why say that you knoe? felt like he was giving me an ultimatum

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hernandez • Sep 13, 2017
probably it just felt weird the way he said it but idk i mean i guess its up to the court to decide...but if i did get full custody i would put on there that he could see them whenever i just feel like it was outta left field for him to tell me he wants joint custody and that that way he wont pay child support because i will be working too

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Nicole • Sep 13, 2017
In my state they look at both parents income and then decide child support. I bet if you didn't work he would hold that against you too

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Most of the time they like to share custody. Each state is different on how they factor child support. Is there a reason he shouldn't have them 50% of the time? Just for child support is not a good enough reason to give you custody.