Ok ladies I need some advice when my other half and myself met he was carrying a little extra weight from being on holiday. our first date he commented he was starting exercising to shift it. well it's almost three years later and he is doing very little to sort himself out. He has piled on weight since we got together. I've had all the promises of exercise and better diet and it never happens. He has made me feel so crap about myself (not with his words but with actions) like not being good enough but he isn't even trying for me or for himself. I know overweight can cause fertility issues too. I'm bored of promises that he is going to fix it and as shallow as it sounds I find it so hard to be sexually attracted to him when after everything he has put me through he doesn't seem to be that bothered about looking his best for me or being a healthy weight for himself. it's like well I've got the girl so why bother trying. how do I make it clear to him that he needs to put effort in? it's not even the weight that's the issue, it's his lack of trying and not only that but it's at the stage that sex hurts if he is on top of me, I can't go on top of him because it hurts my groin with the stretch that it's become and sleeping next to him is painful with his weight pressing down the mattress. I don't want to hurt his feelings but something needs to change