Ok mamas who co sleep and have a VERY attached baby I NEED your advice!!!

I'm not against CIO but it didn't work for us and would prefer a more gentle method..

My 8 month old nurses absolutely ALL night to stay asleep, and he takes the worst naps and still needs me to rock and nurse him for most off his naps during the day, I have no problem comforting but I also have things to get done and a 4 yr old desperate for more of my attention...

I have zero problem with soothing to sleep the problem is I can't put him down at bedtime and have some adult time with my husband it's been a long 8 months and I'm ready! Lol

ANY advice on continuing BF and co sleeping but getting him to go down at bedtime by himself sleep a bit more independently and take better naps?

I'm thinking of giving him a initial bedtime feeding then just letting him cry but hold and comfort him in bed with me and doing that for every waking unless he's truly hungry...??

I cut out rocking a couple weeks ago and he's been sleeping MUCH better but still thinks he needs nursing to sleep. Which again it's not a problem initially I will probably nurse him to sleep for a long time I just need him to take some naps and go down for at least couple hours at bedtime! I'm desperate!